Tuesday, August 24, 2010

What bad things happen to your life today?

"The only thing that grows from cultivating any dark seed of sorrow is more bitter fruit." -- Guy Finley


I have learn today that being positive and acceptive is so much fulfilling than being grumpy and denial.

Things happen naturally in life. The same thing applies to bad things. You name it. Brokenhearts happen. Bad news happen. Traffic just happen. And the best approach toward it should be just be with it, follow it and adjust self.

Mother earth never fails to put smile on people face when they have positive attitude against bad days. Bad day is just it. It's bad when we think it's bad. It's natural and it's perfect, as perfect as good day, depending on how we see it. Troubles are natural, as natural as being naked when we take shower. The day you fell in love was just as natural as the day you got dumped.

Life isn't waiting when you get there. It's happening right now. Don't expect better life unless you see the now is natural, if not perfect.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Let’s Face It. Some Days Are Bad.

This is fact of life. Some days are bad that make you walk sluggishly. When you felt that people you love disappoint you. When somebody you trust so much kills you slowly at your back. When you think you have done your best but people always say that you’re not good enough.

Thing is, at the same time, some days are full of happiness that you make you want to have it 24 hours of your life. You don’t want to let it go. Even for a second. When people you love make a surprise for you, sending you a thank you note that makes your day. When somebody you hate so much stands for you when you’re cornered. When you think what you did was disaster but they said that you have done your best!

There are always ups and down that make you feel that, yea it’s just life.

Nothing too serious to think about.

This week I learn so much on how to live in present. I have been quite busy, occupied with lots of work to do. I started in the morning hoping that I could go out at night. Or even just having good time in my room with ‘Two and A Half Man’. I could hardly do it. Even weekend is so worrying for me.

This is the same feeling I got every time I felt so excited and challenged about something. After 1 month in Bangkok, I now can start feeling stillness inside me. I am perfectly fine.

Being in stillness is great. It makes me feel secure. And being in present makes me enjoy life at every blink of an eye. Even when Paul Octopus was right when my favorite team lost. I could still feel that was okay. I let go.

Here I am in my room. Somewhere in the middle of Kuala Lumpur. I can see the how laid back this city from my room. Stillness is here. I can see some cars going home. Or, sorry maybe I’m totally wrong. Some cars start the journey to somewhere in the middle of the night. That’s bad life.

And some people really come and go.

This week I feel so down, knowing the fact that one of my good friend’s wife has gone. I can’t say anything but sorry for what happened to him. I wish I could do more. And knowing the fact that I cannot do anything is totally unwell. I hope he’s perfectly fine.

It’s life. Jakarta is waiting for me this weekend.

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Saturday, July 10, 2010


Let’s face it. Some people are really different. Some point of view is not what you think they should be. And at every blink of your eyes you may see different thing in life. That is the beauty of life.

A Japanese guy in one of the roads in America got lost. He asked someone the name of the block where he was standing on. That American guy said that it was a block surrounded by road 1 and road 2. That Japanese guy did not understand.

An American coming to Japan asked someone when he got lost. He asked the name of the road he was standing on. That Japanese guy said it was a road between block 1 and 2. That American guy did not understand.

That stupid misunderstanding happened because there is no block name in America and there is no road name in Japan. There is road name in America as well as there is block name in Japan. It’s just as simple as we don’t know it.

There’s flipside of everything.

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Wednesday, July 07, 2010

The Mystery of Tomorrow

If I have chance to choose which part of my life that I want to see the most, I want to choose tomorrow. It’s not myself at 35 or 60 I really want to see. I am not interested at all.

What I want to see is what I am going to eat tomorrow. Will it be good? Will it be the same food I had today? And will I meet the same people? And will I face the same business issue? Well, life is moving and I am really curious how I see new things everyday.

I am person who usually think of the future instead of the past. It’s more interesting to see new things than bringing my imagination back to, say, 5 years ago. It was something, but I just don’t want to regret on something and wishing I could turn back the time. Being in the tomorrow is more interesting. And maybe that’s why I am quite forgetful – I think too much about the future and how interesting every second tomorrow will be.

Today is the future of my past. I couldn’t imagine before that I would be here, sitting in the sofa and typing this note whilst relaxing. From the window of my apartment, I could see how cheerful Bangkok night sky is. And I enjoy every second and every letter I type here. I enjoy every joke guys talking about in “How I Met Your Mother”.

Hopefully tomorrow will be exciting. At least it will be new thing.

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Sunday, July 04, 2010

Lazy Ass

This morning I woke up sluggishly. This is the first time I woke up without pressure I need to do things. Being in the condition that so many things you need to do, you are always in the rush. This weekend I manage myself not to be in the rush all the time. I try to relax instead. And sleeping for 9 hours is such a blessing for me.

I am lazy.

Being grateful when you are at ease is easy. Most of people can sit back, enjoy coffee and be grateful. Being grateful at difficult time or when you’re in the rush, it’s another thing. There’s such a barrier to do so. When you can overcome the barrier and start speaking grateful language, that’s when you’re really sure that your life is in peace.

This is the first month I am in Bangkok; the city where I always wanted to be. Life’s here is good. Yet if I compare it with when I was in Jakarta, it’s totally different. I can’t sill find the right balance on everything. Saying words full of grateful helps a lot.

The place is here. The time is now. And the future is in our hands.

How do you rejuvenate yourself?

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Sunday, May 16, 2010

The Heartbeat of Small City

Yesterday I surfed up like no more days to live and whilst enjoying being on top of the surfboard, my body was brought to the ocean by the current. Trying so hard to kiss the beach line; I knew that it would be like pain in my ass. And I was stucked far away from the beach line for some time.

I felt a bit worried about swimming all night long with my surfboard. It was 6 PM something and the sun already did its everyday to-do-list of performing twelve hours dancing. I started to wave my hands; expecting surfer fellas to see (hopefully come to me; with them being aware at least made me feel better) me struggling. My heart beat like the heartbeat of the small city in the south coast of Java.

It was the same feeling when I fell beneath Musi river. I felt afraid.

Finally I made it myself to the beach line. Luckily there was a big wave coming from my back; one of the biggest for a beginner like me, and I ride it. I made it though. The thing is there is always a good thing behind the bad thing.

OFF to Singapore.

Friday, May 14, 2010

Dessert of Thought

I have not been writing quite some time. My dead mind can't go anywhere else but onto the dessert of thought. Freshness I expected to come didn't come and I started feeling that I need to relax a bit.

My days are great. I am just a bit busy with the job I love so much (seriously). Party days never end like I am in Ibiza. It's just an everyday life. You know what I mean. And now after being mentally exhausted after office hours, I still push myself to work out, tortured by my personal trainer. At least I lost weight 3 kgs now.

Today I want to be grateful for a very relaxing day. Long weekend is always like everyday breakfast for many Jakartans; they go on vacation, leaving Jakarta as if doing exodus out of polluted air and being in fresh air of rural area. Some are being beach bum. They take swim suit and show to fishes that they got sexy body. And they take surf board to stand on it, feeling like they are kings of the ocean. Good to see them out of routine and being grateful for their life.

And I am very happy that Jakarta is so quiet today. Afternoon rain was like a blessing to my day! Sitting in Starbucks and doing some works; my mind goes like an automated machine producing masterpiece in the state of mindfulness.

I find it's good to relax a bit, take some coffee and spend time with ladies in MO to charge myself. For a better day!

Sleep well, everyone!

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Being Grateful

Over the past 2 years I have been practicing living attitude of gratitude. Unconsciously it has helped me to see things from the bright side instead of being depressed by the problems. Having said that, I have stretched myself to the level I never imagine before. Life is full of possibilities instead of limitations.

Today I want to show my gratitude to the cool dude who has introduced it the first time to me thru his songs and positive attitude toward life; Jason Mraz. The first time I listened to his first life-is-easy song, I'm yours; I felt myself was connected to the universe. My soul bow down and started committing to live high. But I try so hard not to be a geek in the pink; the song itself is really catchy but the idea of being that kind of person isn't cool. =)

To enjoy how abundant his life is; check out his cool blog on http://www.freshnessfactorfivethousand.blogspot.com/.

We have two options facing things in life; being positive and negative. Building the positive habit is simple and hard at the same time. It's simple; because we only have 2 options. It's hard; because it's not a one day but everyday transformation instead. If we want to change our habit for great life, the time is today.

Universe is abundant and we have countless reasons to complain as well as to be grateful. Taking example of being stucked in the traffic jam; we can complain because it's a traffic jam as well say 'thanks' for the nice music we listen inside our car. We can complain because roses have thorns, or we can rejoice because thorns have roses. And I think it's good to think that when the world pushes us to our knees, we are in a perfect position to pray.

It all depends on how we see things, how we act on things coming to our life and how we shape our life.

Many times we whine on many bad things happened to us. Everyone in this world has problems. But I think there are more people in the world who have been suffering from poverty, whose freedom is taken from their lives and to whom we should compare the pain. I choose to be grateful to have great life, great family and great friends instead of complaining of being stuck in the traffic jam.

We may opt to share our pain to friends, but we may need to consider that complaining everyday to our friends is an act of being selfish. The world doesn't move around us and we're not the center of the universe. It's more on taking than giving.

What are you grateful for today?

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Wednesday, March 31, 2010

A Dream Which May Change Life Forever

This morning I woke up in the morning feeling so great that mother earth, for many times, reminded me to pursue what I really wanted to do. It was a mind-blowing dream that I got chance to travel around the world. Waking up in the morning and immediately crying unconsciously are not my thing. I don't think I am that kind of person, but when it just came in, I could hardly resist it. I fell down being so in joyous moment.

One of the best part I still remember was when I needed to go to North Pole, I went thru some middle east countries. Whilst realizing that those countries have never been in my list, the excitement of being on the road catch up my mind. I saw new things, sing a melody I don't know existed. Taste the flavor which bites my tongue. And feel the warm breeze that blows my mind up.

Well, it's too imaginary. But wait, the next part was actually novel-like story. I stopped by many countries, moved from one place to another one by bus, hitchhiking and plane. I saw sunset thru my flight window. The terminal hall becomes an everyday life that I saw people checking in, smiling whilst being alone in a row. That must be a smile of having chance to meet their beloved one back home. My passport was just full of red, green and blue from the immigration officer. They put master peace onto it. And I saw the same shoes I wore since the beginning I started being on the road.

When I woke up, realizing that dream is still existed, I feel like a slap on my face. Emotionwise, I was filled abundantly with joy. That a simple dream, unexpected one, could still change the way I see future. I felt like a blessed one because even though I tried so hard to forget that used-to-be-impossible dream, I still kept that dream unconsciously.

I fell down on the floor, filled with satisfaction. That was one of the most joyous moment in my life.

I still wanted to do it indeed.

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Friday, March 26, 2010

Smiling Faces

Last week I finished a meeting with a good result but feeling awkward whilst leaving it. Simple ‘thank you’ and warm smile weren’t existed when it finished. I was like, okay – why can’t a simple smile or a ‘thank you’ end the meeting up? Isn’t it lovely to have a smile in everyday life?

I think we need more on something like these pictures! Come on, keep the smile coming in! =)

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Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Every Road Has Its Own Challenge

I see the nice sunset here from my seat on the flight back to Kuala Lumpur from Kolkata. It's been a week off from Jakarta, and I start missing what I had in there. It is perfect sunset 4000 feet above the sea, here from the window seat. I am alone here in the row 24, enjoying the me time.

India is another journey I had in life. It ain't easy at all. I used to believe that I could handle any travel challenge. I remember the first time I traveled over the land from Singapore, to Kuala Lumpur, to Hat Yai - a border city between Thailand and Malaysia, and finally to Phuket. It wasn't easy at all for the first time traveler.

But then it became so easy when I climbed up Great Wall of China and explored the land thru Saigon, Phnom Penh and Siem Reap. I thought everything was going to be very easy. That time it was true that I didn't find anything to put me down on the ground.

Then I realize that's not true at all. My over-confidence has something to do with my limitation. India isn't easy at all. Having said that I never regret to have seen this incredible land, I then realize that every road has its own challenge for every traveler.

Keep walking and make sure you wear good shoes!

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Monday, March 22, 2010

Top 10 Tips Travel to India

Having traveled to India, which was one of the most unique travel experiences for me, here are some travel tips before you travel to India.

1. Open your mind. India is way different with any country that you can imagine. Cars honking, pickpocket, people taking shower on the road, generally-dirtier roads and crowd. In one of the days I was in India, I wish I had never booked the ticket to India. I was in the bad mood that all those annoying things just made me crazy. But then being open minded and trying to accept it helped a lot. Be open minded and enjoy the rest!

2. Drink only bottled water. Tap water is generally unsafe for first time traveler. It may contain bacteria which may cause stomachache and diarrhea. You can buy bottled mineral water (650 ml) with only Rs 14. Even when you're in restaurant, try to order bottled one.

3. Bargain hard. Everything in India is generally cheap; but almost anything needs to be bargained. Sellers/taxi drivers will always put unreasonable price at the first place. Bargain like Chinese :). For some cases, you don't need to bargain since it won't cost you that much (for example: using rickshaw for 15 minutes will only cost you Rs 10, which is nothing compared to walking for 30 minutes). In addition, you will help community to improve its economy as well.

4. Prepaid taxi. If arriving from airport, try using only prepaid taxi. It is fixed price, not negotiable and it will take you to the place you want. Even though it's a bit more expensive, the risk of being cheated is less. For first time traveler to India, if you use big money, check the change gives you. From 2 times using prepaid taxi in Kolkata airport, they always gave me -Rs 100 or -Rs 200 less. I said to the counter, "Do you think I'm stupid!?"

5. Understand the transportation system. Traveling inside the city is not efficient. You can use metro (in New Delhi and Kolkata), but some places are still unreachable. Try a mix of rickshaw (the cheapest, in suburban area, in main road it's prohibited), auto rickshaw (we call it Bajaj), bus (a bit complicated but worth to try for small distance, use in urban) and taxi (last chance if others don't work for you).

6. Be deaf! Cars honking are the most annoying thing for me at the first two days in India. You can't find a 5-sec without that noise (5 second is a day observation between morning until evening). Be deaf and you'll enjoy the city.

7. Be dirty. Roads in india are generally a bit dirty because garbage, water (showering on the road), spiting and smoke. Expect that kind of thing and you'll like walking on the street with crowd of people.

8. Don't take it personally. I met some friends in India; one of them said that they sometimes say something without any point in an aggressive way. Understand that it is different culture and do not take it personally.

9. Don't get melted. The weather in India can be very hot (to 40 C at max in hot season, between May - July). What you can do is to adjust yourself. Use sexy sunglasses, fabulous short and sunblock if you want.

10. Try couchsurfing. As always, it is the best way to travel overseas. It's not about free accommodation, but more on having someone in the city you can talk to. If you're lucky, they can go to places with you.

Safe travel to India! Don't forget to have proper preparation.

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Saturday, March 20, 2010

The Home of the Greatest Missionary in 20th Century

On my way back to Kuala Lumpur, I finish my trip with a visit to Mother Theresa's House in Kolkata; in where most of her missionary works done since the first time she committed to work for poors and unwanted until her death in 1997.

Here I am, enjoying the holiness of this place while thinking how great humans can be when they have unconditional love. Coming from Catholic family, practicing Catholic values and vowing her life to Jesus; she has been speaking universal language, which is giving unconditional love. In her definition of that such love, Mother Theresa has been working in almost of her entire life for poors, ill and unwanted people.

Mother Theresa was born in August 26, 1910 in Skopje, Macedonia with original name of Gonxha Agnes Bojaxhiu. She received the first call for religious life at the age of twelve. At the age of 18, she left home by ship for almost 2 months to India. Here, she did the missionary works by spreading the language of love to the world. From this small and poor place, the news of greatest love and richest masterpiece is received by the world.

She built houses for poors, hospital for sicks and heart for unwanted. What she did nonetheless was unconditional love. And it was for almost 60 years of her life.

Mother Theresa has received 700 awards during her service, including the Nobel Peace Award in 1979. When she received the award, she said, "I am unworthy to be here, it's all by the grace of God."

Mother Theresa died at the age of 87 in her room behind complication of heart disease, chest and back pain, recurrence pneumonia and malaria.

"I can't breathe. My work is done."

Needless to say, being in this small place yet big in heart and unconditional love is one of the key highlights during my travel in Kolkata.

Very recommended!

-- It is not enough for us to say, "I love God",
but I also have to love my neighbor.

-- We can do no great things, only small things
with great love

-- I prefer that you make mistakes in kindness than
that you work miracles in unkindness

-- How can we love God whom we do not see, if we do
not love our neighbors whom we see, whom we touch with whom we

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Friday, March 19, 2010

Be Open Minded and Let's Just Put Smile on Your Face

I sat down on the road with some local kids in the Sudder street in Kolkata, which is backpacker area in the city. I gave Rs 20 to a very poor boy. He bought food with that. Seeing that Rs 20 is small amount of money (~50 cents USD), which is nothing for me but maybe it gave a proper food for the boy, I feel so grateful and sad at the same time.

It's been a week for me in India. Ups and down happened just because cities here are unique compared to Jakarta. I need to handle the crowd of people walking on the street, sometimes squeezing myself on the road. After a week I get used to it.

A friend of mine said that I needed to be open minded enough to travel here and it's totally true. I thought I was open minded enough but I was wrong. Now I know that I need to stretch myself a little bit and see new things as good. India is actually a country which can makes you stressful yet smiling at the same time. I am happy to see that my last days are generally full of smile. Thanks to some friends who have been good companions while I'm here.

One of the good examples was on my way back to Delhi from Agra. I used local train for only Rs 75 (~1.5 USD) for 3 hours traveling time. It was full and packed train with almost impossible to move inside the train. No air conditioner, just a fresh air from the window. I could choose to complain about it and worried about things, but I slept like babies; just enjoying the now and making comfortable with myself.

It's true that open mind can make you smile even though the world moves against you and the way you think.

I was like, okay, I wanted to come back to Indonesia soon several days ago. Now, I don't give a shit to my negative thinking. I really enjoy it!

It's a good travel experience after all!

Namaste and have a good day!

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Monday, March 15, 2010

Living as Locals in India

Shiva is the third god in Hinduism, known as the god os destruction. But Indian prefer calling THAT as god of transformation. This means that it's not only about taking things to the ground or transforming things to nothing, where it all started; but also starting things from beginning, which is associated as good. It depends on how we see it; good or bad. In the case of Shiva, it's good that growth and new life come after destruction. Something doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

I was shocked with many things the first time I stood on the ground outside of Kolkata airport; cars honking every second, people taking shower on the main road, crowd of people in the second biggest population in the world. I started believing what people said about this country, before I left from Indonesia. It was generally negative things what they said.

But then I started seeing things as good. I was like, okay, this is different and nothing to do with mood swing. Life is just different here. The charm of new friends I met here; Joao and Shraya at least made me feel like home here.

On top of the rooftop where I was staying, there was open space to take shower just like locals do. I enjoyed taking shower, rubbing my body and enjoying the night sky view from there. A very good experience.


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Sunday, March 14, 2010

Back Seat

Back to when I was in school, I used to be a kid who always sit at the back seat on the bus. I always enjoyed the moment when I could see people's head from the back and got chance to see smile and friends talking. My butt got along very well with the back seat.

Here I am, at the back seat of Skybus heading to Kuala Lumpur. It is in the midnight before moving my ass to India. It's been always great having this moment, taking a week off from routine. I don't need to be in the rush and worship meeting schedule everyday. It's just very easy, sitting here and thinking of how meaningful seeing new places and tasting flavors I might not know existed before.

Sky is the limit, that's what people said. In the respect of that philosophy, we need to see that 'sky is the limit' has something to do with human's limitation as well. If in every chance we want to reach the sky, we may end up with frustration. Sky is the limit for some cases, but many times your limit is the coconut at the top of the tree on the beach. You can't go higher.

I believe that winning choicefully is way much better than winning in every chance. As well as letting go the past, broken heart and failure, sometimes we need to let go a win. Win at big things whilst letting go some meaningless things.

That's the same with being in the spotlight. While it's good, but many times it's frustrating to satisfy ones' expectation every time. Stepping back is a win too in a way that we can get the whole picture of where we are and prioritize things we really want to do in life.

I am still the one who loves sitting at the back seat of the bus.

I just am.

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Saturday, March 06, 2010

Just Me

I still remember the days when kids yelled at me saying that I was weird with my small eyes. It was back to 20 years ago when I was still living in Kapitan, a small village alongside Musi River. I felt like the ugliest kid in the world.

Pressure from kids are sometimes bigger from adults, just because they don't know why it happened. Even they don't really realize if they're different. Having said that, they don't know how to react to that bullying thing. I couldn't do anything but crying.

Today I watched a Chinese Cap Go Meh celebration from Chinese ethnics, attended by many Indonesia President and his ministers. It's long journey so Indonesian-born-Chinese get equality in living in here.

Back to Gus Dur presidential period the first time the inequality between non-Chinese and Chinese was erased. The spirit was continued by Megawati period when Chinese New Year became a national holiday.

I remember when I was a child I always took a day off from school in Chinese New year day, just because I really wanted to spend time with my whole family. It was love I looked for, seeing adults talking, eating, drinking and laughing like no more days to live. On top of that, getting 'angpau' from aunties and uncles was another mission. You must not miss that; the first time you really feel that you're the richest person in th world. =)

So, seeing how this country tries to erase inequality amongst its citizens, I feel so grateful. Debating and arguing about differences that may lead to conflict is so last decade. We don't move on.

GLEE describes perfectly on how we should live and answer community pressure when we have big nose; when we are a nerd; when we are out of community just because we have Chinese eyes; and when we always want to sit at the backside of our class just because our mom or dad said we were dumb. The casts of GLEE accept that they're different, become depressed (which is good phase of realizing that they have to wake up and show the world they ARE superstar) and move forward.

People called you big nose?
People called you
People called you 'so gay'?
People didn't want to have lunch with
you just because you don't wear branded wardrobe?
People didn't want to hang
out with you just because you don't have cool job?
Or your boyfriend or
girlfriend kicked you out just because you are snoring when you're sleeping?

Screw them! Seriously. Before they judge your quality and point their fingers to your face, they need to make sure their fingers are clean.

I'm a big fan of living in harmony with differences. I learn from the monks in Cambodia to see things as neutral. Judging things as good and bad many times fails to make us live happily. We are too busy to judge things as good and bad, particularly when it comes to people. I don't think atheism as a bad thing; it's their choice to live their life. Knowing that there are people who don't believe in GOD is awesome, right? Do you think drinking alcohol is a bad thing? If you're gay or lesbian or hermaphrodite or whatever new words coming to our community, don't be shy! You don't need to keep yourself in the closet. You're the most beautiful creatures in this universe. Are you an asshole? First of all, everyone has an asshole, so we're all asshole. =) An asshole is human and there are good things in an asshole's heart. We just can't judge people just because they have different nose size with us.

We're all connected each other since the beginning of the civilization. We're one. And we will just finish our mission as one.

If you're different, then be proud of it! Keep on walking and make sure you wear good shoes.

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